Founder/Director, Wildwood Hermitage

Gordon was someone who I had also known while I was doing men’s work. I chose him because he would often console me on the phone when I felt alone and isolated as a man of color in predominately all white groups. I later realized that though I appreciated his talking to me, I was also perplexed as to why he didn’t say anything while he watched me struggling to get everyone to understand what I was going through as a man of color. I felt that his role in the film was to represent my experience of many EuroAmericans – seeing something happen that was discriminatory, but not saying anything. Much like the “don’t ask, don’t tell” process operating in this country.